When Illinois and Indiana couples have a child in common but don't live together, it can be difficult to hash out visitation that is fair under the circumstances at hand. It can also be challenging to ensure that both parents are kept up-to-date about everything pertaining to the child. This often leaves parents afraid that they will be pushed out of their child's life. One thing that could help alleviate this concern, though, is the utilization of the right of first refusal.
The right of first refusal gives a parent the priority option to provide care for his or her child prior to the child's other parent seeking care from anyone else. Therefore, if a custodial parent wants to take a vacation and leave the child with the child's grandmother, then the noncustodial parent must first be contacted and refuse to assume care of the child before the child can be left with that grandparent. A child's parents can agree to this right of first refusal, but they don't have to.